Utilizing Assertive Communication to Drive Civil Discourse-Utilizing Assertive Communication to Drive Civil Discourse

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The session, led by Dawn Hayes of the Columbus Bar Association, focused on driving civil discourse through assertive communication. Hayes explained that communication breakdowns often lead to workplace conflict and even litigation, especially when people feel misunderstood, mistreated, or stuck in emotional reactions.<br /><br />A major theme was the relationship between self-image, self-esteem, and communication. Hayes emphasized that how we see ourselves and how we feel about ourselves strongly shape how we behave and speak. She introduced Stephen Covey’s ideas of the “circle of concern” versus the “circle of influence,” arguing that while we can’t control traffic, other people, or external disruptions, we can control our reactions, planning, and communication choices.<br /><br />She also discussed the Johari window and the importance of recognizing blind spots in our behavior. If others see something in us that we don’t see ourselves, awareness is the first step toward improvement.<br /><br />The brain science portion explained that communication is often driven first by the emotional limbic system and only later by the rational prefrontal cortex. Because of this, challenging topics can trigger fear, defensiveness, or aggression. Hayes described assertive communication as the balanced middle ground between passivity and aggression: direct, honest, respectful, and open.<br /><br />She encouraged participants to slow down emotionally charged reactions by asking questions, listening, and creating “friction” before responding. The goal is to increase self-awareness, improve influence, and foster respectful civil discourse in both professional and personal settings.

Keywords

civil discourse

assertive communication

workplace conflict

self-awareness

self-esteem

circle of influence

Johari window

emotional regulation

prefrontal cortex

respectful communication